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‘Mediation has so many benefits and should, wherever possible, be the default position for separating couples and families’

Lord McNally

The South East London Family Mediation Bureau (SELFMB) was established in 1979 as an independent charity and is widely recognized for its pioneering work in developing family mediation practice.

It is now firmly established as a centre of excellence for family mediation in the UK, serving London and the south-east.

What sets us apart is the quality and consistency of our mediation practice. All of our family mediators are FMCA accredited.

The SELFMB has become one of the country’s foremost providers of family mediation and, particularly, of child issues mediation. Its mediators include specialists in this particular area of family mediation whose extensive practice experience and writings on the subject have contributed significantly to the development of family mediation in this country and in particular to the Bureau’s long and successful history of mediating child related disputes.

The Bureau’s special focus on the needs, interests and perspectives of children includes the provision of child consultation, that is, for children themselves to be consulted by a mediator in appropriate circumstances.

The SELFMB also offers mediation to separated or separating couples in relation to their property and financial matters. Very many of its clients over the years have used the Bureau’s services to successfully mediate agreements in what is termed “all issues mediation” – that is, in relation to both their future care arrangements for their children and also their property and finances.

SELFMB’s mediators are drawn from a variety of professional backgrounds: they include family lawyers (both barristers and solicitors), academics, child counsellors, psychologists, social workers and family therapists. All are accredited family mediators, through the Family Mediation Council.

The Bureau’s self referral process is straightforward: prospective clients can contact the Bureau directly (tel: 020 8315 7460 or email to enquiries@selfmb.org.uk) and can usually be seen within a few days of making an enquiry for an appointment.


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COVID-19 & Low-cost mediation

If you are experiencing difficulties as a result of COVID-19 we maybe able to help with the cost of mediation through our National Lottery COVID Fund. Call 020 8315 7460 to discuss. 


Office appointments are now available again at our office in Bromley as well as appointments via  Zoom.  Zoom  is a video meeting App which you can download for free onto your phone/laptop or other device. Find out more here.

Mediation by video meeting is a recognised approach, approved by the FMC (Family Mediation Council). We have used Zoom for MIAM meetings for several years and we have now used it successfully to help many clients to reach agreements during the lockdown period.

Please call on 020 8315 7460 to find out more or if would like to arrange an appointment.